Inner tension can be described that the various aspects of our personalities are in conflict with one another and this conflict can cause dysfunctional behavior. For example, if you make a mistake, you may say to yourself, “I can’t believe I keep messing up like this!” Then you may say to yourself, “Give yourself a break, no one is perfect.” This would be the inner conflict. If this conflict cannot be resolved, one may attempt to escape the inner bickering by zoning out in front of the television or seek more extreme ways to escape, such as drug use.
We find that there is nothing new under the sun when it comes to our human condition of experiencing inner conflict. Even in ancient times, we see a demonstration of this inner opposition or polarization when St. Paul in the book of Romans writes about not wanting to do things that he finds himself doing and wanting to do things that he can’t seem to accomplish. The Internal Family Systems model (IFS) is a tool that is used to help ease this inner tension with results of mental clarity and calmness, allowing clients to make confident choices on a path to peace.
In IFS therapy, we don’t judge the “problem” parts; rather, we seek to understand them and appreciate their efforts to help, without losing sight of the ways they cause problems. Similar to how Jesus approached sinners; loving them as people and naming the choices or behaviors that were harmful to them and harmful to their relationship with God.
IFS is a model of psychotherapy that can be used as a tool to bridge the gap between what one knows in their head and what ones feels in their heart. Julie will sometimes use IFS as a tool for spiritual direction, helping clients identify what parts or aspects of themselves are blocking their desire to cultivate a deeper relationship with Christ. She also teaches prayer techniques involving praying for parts (intercessory prayer) and praying from parts (often found in Psalms). Helping burdened parts unload creates a spaciousness inside, allowing the Holy Spirit to flow more freely in one’s life. Unburdening these parts of our personalities leads to a clearer view of one's Imago Dei (God Image) giving them a vision of health, then these unburdened parts of our personalities are able to fulfill their true God-given purpose. For example, instead of one’s self-talk being critical, saying “I can’t believe I keep messing up like this!,” the criticism may be transformed into a gentle corrector, saying “Okay, so we did that again, how can I learn from this and what can I do differently next time?”
Julie offers Christian IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy as a certified IFS therapist trained at all three levels. Her training is unique in that she had the privilege of attending level 1 & 2 solely with other like-minded Christians which afforded them to wrestle with where the IFS model of therapy does not align with their Judeo-Christian faith world view. Julie has been leading groups, workshops, and lectures for churches, therapists, and clergy since 2006, offering back to the community this integrative perspective on psychology and faith.
View Julie's IFS experience here.
If you are interested in having her provide a workshop for your church or counseling group focusing on the integration of IFS and faith, contact her by email.
Read Dr. Schwartz's article "The Larger Self," his inspiring first-hand account of how he developed and uses the IFS Model and the extraordinary, transformative effect it has on him and his clients.